If you or a loved one received a complex and scary diagnosis from a doctor you would consider getting a second opinion. It would either reaffirm the diagnosis or offer alternatives and may also save you a lot of money in the long run.
Why would it be any different for your separation or divorce?
Your future financial and emotional wellbeing and that of your children rely upon getting the right advice for you as you try to navigate the family law system.
Why would you trust that to just anyone or without getting the best advice?
The reality is that you wouldn’t.
While medical diagnoses are often very black and white, your family law matter is less defined. Of course there are certain realities in a family law matter and any lawyer can provide advice on those things. But the real value comes from understanding all of the grey areas involved in family law, those that are unique to your family situation and where it is you want to end up from here.
A second opinion isn’t right for everyone and we certainly don’t advocate leaving your current lawyer and going “lawyer shopping” by any means. Rather we sagely suggest that you consider whether a second opinion would be helpful in your situation or would make you feel more comfortable with the path you are on.
About half of the people that we see for an initial advice meeting don’t go on to engage us as their family lawyers, in fact most of them don’t ever separate or divorce. These are people just like you, not quite sure how this all works and seeking advice and opinions on the pathways and options available at this time or into the future.
We can offer a no-obligation fixed fee appointment with an expert family lawyer to provide you with advice on your situation and options, or to review your current family law matter and offer a second opinion. Contact us today if you would like to find out more.
Sometimes it’s about kissing a few frogs…
It may not be the opinion or advice that you’re not sure about. Perhaps it could be that you need to find a family lawyer that is a better fit for you and your situation and that is alright as well.
Your family lawyer will become a huge part of your life for a period of time and you need to make sure that they are the right person for you. Your best friend’s cousin’s neighbour may have liked a certain approach and it worked out well for them but that doesn’t mean to say it is right for you or your particular family situation.
You may also be thinking “I don’t need to like my family lawyer, I’m paying them to do a job for me” and you would be quite right. We’re not suggesting that you necessarily have to like your family lawyer or start putting them on your Christmas card list for years to come. However, you do need to be sure that they are the best person for that job you’re paying for and for your future security.
So what should you look for in a family lawyer?
- Expertise. The complexity of family law demands specialisation and experience.
- An exceptional capacity to communicate – making the complex more understandable.
- Honesty. You need to know the good, the bad and the ugly up front.
- Expectation. It is reasonable to want to know what to expect and to hold your solicitor to that advice.
- Respected in their field. It’s important that your solicitor has the respect of the Court and of his or her colleagues. It makes a material difference.
- A capacity to build a genuine rapport. You’re trusting your most intimate of details and your future with this person after all.
- Availability. Your family life doesn’t stop after business hours, so a good solicitor appreciates that there will be after hours contact, and a need to respond urgently if required.
- Value. This is hard to measure, but given the often significant cost of legal advice and representation, it’s important that you feel in control of your legal fees and that you are achieving a positive outcome.
- Pragmatism. It is futile to win the battle, but lose the war. Incurring disproportionate legal fees to what you stand to achieve is a poor outcome.
- Tough Love. Beware the solicitor that actively intensifies your feelings of anger. A good lawyer will challenge you to reduce conflict with your former partner if possible and will make you acutely aware of the long term implications of maintaining any negative emotion for all of you.
We know we may not be for everyone and readily accept that. Our team is the largest specialty family law team in Queensland though, offering a whole range of experience and styles and personalities to find the right fit for you. All of our lawyers work across locations and technology to be wherever it is that you are. You can find out more about our team and locations here.
If you would like to find out more about our no-obligation fixed fee initial appointments contact us today and don’t be afraid to ask for what you want.